Communication by definition means a transfer of information from one place to another. The word ‘Communication’ derives from the Latin word communication which means ‘sharing’. It means the sharing of information between different individuals, e.g. ideas, concepts, plans, etc. In relationships, communication helps you to convey to someone else what you are going through and what your requirements are.

Communication is crucial in a healthy relationship as being able to talk openly to people about your life, your thoughts and feelings help in cultivating a strong bond with each other. It is a vital part of any relationship whether with friends/family or in romantic relationships as well. 

Benefits of Good Communication in Relationships:

According to Dr.John Gottman, founder of the Gottman Institute which works on building healthy relationships; a relationship’s pattern of communication can speak a lot about how successful the relationship will be. A healthy pattern of communication can benefit the relationship in many ways:

1. Minimize rumination- Good communication helps in resolving conflicts and discussing them in a positive manner hence it helps in minimizing rumination. 
2. Intimacy- Good communication is crucial to form a deep emotional bond with another person. Self-disclosure of thoughts, feelings, values, and dreams leads to an increase in the feelings of closeness between both the people in the relationship.
3. Reduces conflict- Every person experiences fights and arguments in their relationship, but having healthy communication in the relationship helps in resolving and reducing the conflict.

Characteristics of effective communication

Effective ways of communicating in a relationship are as follows:

1. Active Listening: Listening attentively, engaging in the conversation, and reflecting back on what has been said. 
2. Using ‘I feel’ statements: Using statements like ‘You are very messy and you never clean up’ can make the other person feel that the language being used is accusing. Hence, it is crucial to use ‘I feel’ statements that can be helpful during conflicts.
3. Being Kind: It is important to be kind and show generosity even while having an argument with the other person. 
4. Avoid Distractions: While communicating with another person, it’s important to stay away from phones and other electronic devices and give full attention to that person.
5. Acceptance: It is crucial to show acceptance and validation of the other person’s feelings and thoughts.

Relationships who have communication issues practice negative behavioural actions such as engaging in passive aggressive actions, constantly criticizing, and giving the silent treatment to one another. These kinds of relationships who have unhealthy patterns of behaviour and communication should seek professional help for e.g. Couples counselling and Family Therapy from the best psychologists and psychiatrists in the city. Couples Counselling and Family Therapy can help in improving the communication patterns of the people involved in the relationship which is extremely important in creating a healthy bond within the relationship.

Janhavi Mehta

Psychologist

Veda Wellness and Rehabilitation