Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is more than just arrogance or confidence. It’s a complex emotional condition where a person struggles with deep insecurity, masked by a need to feel important.
Living with someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) can be emotionally draining, confusing, and deeply painful especially if that person is your spouse or partner. At Veda, we understand that it can take a mental and emotional toll on a person and helps you identify signs of narcissism, understand the causes behind it, guide you on how to handle such a relationship, seek professional help if required and empower you to decide when it’s time to protect your well-being and walk away.
Have you ever felt like someone in your life always makes everything about themselves, no matter what’s going on? Do they find it hard to admit when they’re wrong, or blame you for things you didn’t do?
This may not just be difficult behavior—it could be Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a recognized mental health condition. While everyone may show narcissistic traits occasionally (we all love praise and recognition), NPD is something more serious and persistent.
It is a condition where a person may exhibit symptoms such as –
But deep down, this behavior often comes from fear, shame, or feeling “not good enough.” So, if your partner constantly disregards your needs, shows no remorse, or makes you feel small or “crazy,” they may be exhibiting traits of NPD.
No one wakes up and chooses to become narcissistic. It usually begins in childhood or teenage years.
Some common causes:
• Being overly praised or overly criticized by parents
• Feeling emotionally ignored
• Experiencing childhood trauma
• Growing up in a competitive or status-obsessed environment
It’s a defense mechanism, not a personality flaw. But that doesn’t make it easy to live with—for the person or their loved ones.
Here are some everyday signs to look out for:
• Always talking about themselves
• Bragging constantly, even exaggerating achievements
• Getting angry if they don’t get special treatment
• Feeling jealous of others’ success
• Refusing to say sorry or admit fault
• Making others feel small or unimportant
Not every person who shows these signs has NPD, but if the behavior is consistent and causes problems in relationships, it may be a red flag.
Yes, but it takes time, willingness, and professional help.
NPD can improve through:
• Talk therapy: With the help of a trained psychologist
• Family therapy: To help rebuild broken communication
• Building self-awareness: Slowly helping the person see how their actions affect others
At Veda, we offer a safe, non-judgmental space where both individuals and families can heal. Even if the narcissistic person refuses therapy, you can still get support and regain your strength.
Living with or loving someone with NPD can feel exhausting. You might feel:
• Emotionally drained or confused
• Like your opinions don’t matter
• Guilty, even when you’ve done nothing wrong
• Afraid to express your needs
• Like you’re always the one adjusting or apologizing
Over time, this can hurt your mental health. You may feel stuck, angry, or even question your own reality (this is called “gaslighting”).
This can be one of the hardest emotional journeys. You may feel torn between helping them and protecting yourself.
Here are some gentle tips:
1. Educate yourself (and don’t blame yourself)
The first step is understanding that their behavior is part of a disorder. Their behavior is not your fault. You are not the cause of their narcissism. The more you understand NPD, the less you’ll internalize the emotional damage.
2. Set clear boundaries
Narcissists often test limits. Decide what is okay and what is not and stick to it. Say no firmly. Don’t feel guilty for protecting your space, time, or energy.
3. Don’t engage in power struggles
Narcissists love control. Avoid escalating arguments. Use calm, firm communication and step away when they become aggressive or manipulative.
4. Seek therapy for yourself
Whether you choose to stay or leave, therapy can help you regain your confidence, set boundaries, and heal from the emotional abuse. It can help you process your feelings. At Veda, we offer professional guidance for those navigating difficult relationships.
5. Don’t try to “fix” them. It’s not your job.
Myth | Reality |
They are just confident. | Real confidence doesn’t hurt others. |
They will never change | With help, many people learn to manage their behavior. |
They are just being rude | NPD is deeper than rudeness. It’s an emotional dysfunction. |
Only men are narcissists | Anyone can have NPD, regardless of gender. |
If you are:
• Feeling constantly anxious, sad, or scared
• Being emotionally or physically abused
• Walking on eggshells around someone all the time
• Unsure of what’s real anymore
Please reach out.
Veda has a team of psychologists and therapists who understand the emotional chaos NPD can bring. Whether you’re living with it or loving someone through it, we’re here to help you heal.
At Veda Rehabilitation and Wellness, we specialize in complex emotional and behavioral issues like NPD. Our expert team can support:
• Individuals with NPD through customized therapy
• Families and partners trying to cope with emotional exhaustion
• Recovery from gaslighting, emotional trauma, and self-doubt
We offer luxury rehab, tele-therapy, and compassionate family programs designed to restore emotional safety and dignity.
Many partners of narcissists stay for years hoping things will improve. But here’s the truth: people with NPD rarely change unless they recognize the problem and seek professional help.
It may be time to walk away if:
• You feel emotionally exhausted and constantly second-guess yourself
• Your mental health is deteriorating
• You are isolated from friends, family, or support systems
• You are subjected to emotional, verbal, or physical abuse
• You are afraid to speak your truth
• You are doing all the emotional labor and receiving nothing in return
Walking away doesn’t mean you gave up. It means you chose to live.
Leaving someone with NPD can be difficult. They may manipulate, threaten, or guilt you into staying. But you deserve peace. Here’s how to start:
• Make a safety plan – especially if the relationship is abusive
• Gather support – from trusted friends, therapists, or family
• Don’t announce your exit too soon—prepare quietly
• Stick to your decision even if they promise to change
• Consider professional help for trauma recovery afterward
At Veda, we often tell our clients: “You’re allowed to put yourself first especially when someone else never has.”
Yes, but they often love in a way that centers around their own needs. With therapy, healthier patterns can form.
It’s a long-term condition, but many people can improve significantly with the right therapy and support.
Confidence uplifts, narcissism often puts others down. One is secure, the other is insecure.
It’s best to do so with professional support. Unplanned confrontations can trigger defensiveness or manipulation.
Absolutely. Your healing matters, and therapy can help you rebuild clarity, boundaries, and self-respect.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is not just about being “self-obsessed.” It’s a deeper emotional wound that needs understanding and care.
At Veda, we offer a path not just for those with NPD, but for everyone affected by it. Staying in a relationship with a narcissist can shrink your self-worth and make you question your sanity. But healing is possible. We support individuals navigating emotionally toxic relationships. Whether you stay or leave, the key is reclaiming your power.
If you or someone you love is struggling, remember that you are not alone.
we’re just one message away. Reach out to us for compassionate guidance, therapy, or just a space to finally be heard.
